Writing is a Lonely Profession

Writing can be a lonely profession. Most of my days (when I’m writing anyway) are spent on my sofa, usually in my pajamas with my laptop on my knees working on something or other with various internet windows open for research or procrastination purposes. I’m always content when I’m like that. I do what I love and that’s what’s important. However, there are times when I realise that I might have spent an entire two days (my two days off work) doing this and that I haven’t been anywhere or seen anyone or done anything. Sometimes I’m fine with that but sometimes I’m not.

I have to remind myself that there is a life outside of both work and writing and that I need to take time to explore it and have fun. It’s important to do that.

Inside of the writing world, when I’m spending days in front of my computer, I realise the importance for contact with other writers. When I first started out I had a couple of people I talked to, who knew what it was like to be a writer and how lonely it could be. As my work has expanded and my social circles within the writing community developed, I realise that I have friends all over the globe. Most of them are in America and I know one very special couple that always keep me going from Carolina. We talk daily and it means the world to me, not only to have someone who understands what I do and who I can talk to about writing, but someone I can just talk to as a friend.

I signed up to do an author signing down the line but has led me to make friends with those authors who I’ll be sharing a room with for twelve hours and more recently, I began talking to a man in my very own UK who I’m going to be sharing an anthology with. After some general chit-chatting and realising how similar we were in some aspects, we’ve decided to do a collaboration on a short story. That’s something I’m really looking forward to.

I guess what I’m trying to say is embrace the people you talk to, get yourself out there and don’t be shy. Although we all have times when we have our introvert selves come into play, we have to have a strong social network of other writers and authors to prevent the loneliness creeping in.

What are some of the things you do to prevent isolation when writing?

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4 Comments

  1. Great post.

    Well, considering after I quit college because of my anxiety – and instead started a degree that I do from home, which is far more comfortable and enjoyable – I lost contact with all my friends. What I’ve been trying to do is try and find new ones, where I have sort of succeeded, currently speaking to two people, (it’s yet to actually expand out to meeting each other irl, but I’m confident it’ll happen soon). Thankfully, I have a brother who I can talk to, and go out with, even with his friends, which does give me some social interaction.

    Other times, like yourself, I don’t mind the solitude. I’m just that kind of person who likes being in their own company. I’d like to be able to have someone I can go out with from time to time, and I’m sure it’ll happen at some point. Right now I’m okay with the way things are – well, I usually am. But, yeah.

    I went on a bit there. I tend to do that a lot.

    • That’s okay 🙂 it’s great to hear from you. It sounds like you’re pushing your feet out the door which is good. It’s always hard to leave the comfort zone and I find that sometimes when I’ve been in my own company for a long time but when I do I enjoy it.

      I think happiness is the key and if you realise that you’re not happy with a certain situation then it’s important to change it.

  2. I spend a lot of my free time writing. Between work and school, you’d think that’s not much time, but somehow, if I let myself be, my skin could go on for a week without feeling the sunshine. I learned to treat my writing as a job of sorts. Don’t sit at home in your pjs. Get dressed, and go out. I write in a coffee shop usually. I’m not very strict on timing and schedules, so I go anytime between open hours. Usually, you end up getting acquainted with the baristas and managers, which gives you a chance to socialize at least a little. On your way to and from, you sometimes meet people, or just feel the presence of other humans. If you pick a public spot, be it a park, a coffee shop, etc, you’re less isolated to say the least. writing is a singular act and there is no preventing isolation but I think that you can always lessen it.

    • I think you’re probably very right. It’s way to fall into habit so maybe it’s time to push myself out of my comfort zone and do something different.

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